In numerology, each number has its negative and its positive qualities. Most of the time, the negative qualities show up early in life (or phase of life, when referring to pinnacles, challenges, and major cycles), while the positive qualities show themselves later. This is because most people need to learn how to develop the positive qualities of their numbers. Thus, I have put this series in the Numerology and Your Child series of blogs, and will word things as they apply to children.
There are over a dozen negative qualities (and just as many matching positive qualities) associated with each number. Therefore, I will only cover three or four of the most problematic in this series. Today’s qualities are all associated with the number 2.
Negative Quality: Shy
Positive Quality: Persuasive
A shy child is not necessarily being negative. Instead, she is failing to express her ability to communicate, often due to fear of teasing or rejection. There are three major steps to turning shyness into persuasiveness. First, find out what your child feels strongly about, and support her on those issues. Second, work on building her confidence by encouraging her. Helping her is fine, as long as you aren’t doing most of the work for her. Teaching her effective ways to deal with bullies will also be useful. Finally, help her work on her vocabulary and her research skills. It is difficult to say exactly what you mean if you don’t have the vocabulary for it. By the same token, it is easier to persuade another if you have proof to back up your claim.
Negative Quality: Self-Deprecating
Positive Quality: Relating
This one seems rather straightforward. However, most parents, when faced with a self-deprecating child, tend to try to suppress the deprecation without turning it to a positive use. Help your child learn to say things in a manner that allows him to relate how he is feeling to how another is feeling, rather than giving others openings to tease him. The ultimate positive expression of this will occur when you discover that he is building others’ confidence and reducing their tendency to negativity.
Negative Quality: Critical
Positive Quality: Good with Details
This is more a difference in attitude than anything else. The critical child will find every little thing that is wrong with a situation. Teach your child to find – and mention – positives as well as negatives. When your child does find negatives, she should approach them with a non-judgmental attitude. Questions are much better than statements (Should that be there? Vs. That isn’t supposed to be there!). Lack of judgment and a tendency to find the good as well as the bad will allow your child to become the go-to person when a situation or plan needs to be reviewed.
Any negative behavior can be turned positive. You just have to realize what the positive expression of the behavior is and come up with a plan of action to get there. It will take time and effort, but it is worth it.