In numerology, each number has its negative and its positive qualities. Most of the time, the negative qualities show up early in life (or phase of life, when referring to pinnacles, challenges, and major cycles), while the positive qualities show themselves later. This is because most people need to learn how to develop the positive qualities of their numbers. Thus, I have put this series in the Numerology and Your Child series of blogs, and will word things as they apply to children.
There are over a dozen negative qualities (and just as many matching positive qualities) associated with each number. Therefore, I will only cover three or four of the most problematic in this series. Today’s qualities are all associated with the number 1.
Negative Quality: Defiant
Positive Quality: Strikes out alone
The defiant child usually feels that everyone has a say in his life except him. You can start turning this behavior around by acknowledging that feeling. Taking the time to explain why he must or must not do something is often helpful. You can give him the feeling that he has some control in his life by allowing him to make choices, both big and small, and letting him follow through with those choices. You can offer help, but only when he truly needs it. That will help him build the confidence to come to you with his ideas – and helping him follow through on those is a good idea, too.
Negative Quality: Aggressive
Positive Quality: Strong
Aggressiveness can be physical, mental, emotional, or, in rare cases, spiritual. The child who is aggressive usually understands that she is strong, but has no idea how to use that strength. Start turning the behavior around by suggesting ways for her to use her strength to help others instead of hurting them. Take time to talk to her about the difference between aggression and strength. As she starts understanding the positive uses of her strength, start having her come up with ideas on how to use her strength in helpful and useful ways. Chances are good she will have a few ideas that you never thought of.
Negative Quality: Impulsive
Positive Quality: Innovative
The impulsive child does not think about consequences. He sees a problem or something he wants and he does something about it immediately. Start turning this behavior around by giving consequences, and being consistent with them. Talk with him about the consequences of his actions and the effects his actions have on others. If you can catch him before his behavior would result in negative consequences, take the time to talk to him about how to solve his problem. Listen to his ideas, and help him realize what the consequences are for each idea. Thinking things all the way through is what separates the innovator from the impulsive problem solver.
Any negative behavior can be turned positive. You just have to realize what the positive expression of the behavior is and come up with a plan of action to get there. It will take time and effort, but it is worth it.